Busty Babes – How to Charm Them

They say confidence can open any door, but in the real world, especially in the busy pubs and parks of London, it's easy to feel tongue-tied—even more so when faced with a busty babe whose presence feels as magnetic as a Soho jazz band. There’s a funny thing about attraction: most people assume there’s some ancient secret to charming women with curves, but the only secret really worth knowing is that they’re humans first, just with a little extra presence. That’s what we’re unpicking here—no magic tricks, just real talk and some hard-earned wisdom.

Understanding Attraction Beyond the Obvious

Let’s be real, the first thing a lot of people notice about busty women is their figure. But if you stop there, you’re missing the whole picture—like buying a vinyl record for the cover art, then never listening to the music. Attraction, especially with women who get a lot of attention, is about so much more than looks. In London, for example, curvy women tell me the stares aren’t flattering, they’re just tiring. A study from the University of Westminster found that UK women with larger busts get three times as many stares in public compared to their peers, but also report nearly double the number of unwanted comments. That’s not the kind of attention you want to give.

I learned this in a painfully awkward way years ago at The Lexington, an indie gig spot. I spotted a woman—absolutely gorgeous, confident, and yes, busty. My mate nudged me, “Go on, chat her up.” I stumbled in, utterly predictable, and asked her if guys make the same ‘jokes’ every night. She rolled her eyes and walked off—lesson learned. Most curvy women can spot a one-track mind in about five seconds flat. You can be enchanted, but for the love of Yorkshire puddings, don’t make her figure the first, second, or third thing you comment on.

What works? Curiosity about her interests, humor, and giving her space. There’s no shortage of attention, but genuine interest is rare. Ask her about her playlist, her favourite pub, or even where she bought those boots. You’ll stand out for all the right reasons.

The Power of Confidence and Authenticity

Confidence is often confused with cockiness. You don’t need to come in with some brash, wild energy—just be settled in yourself. There’s nothing more charming than someone who knows who they are and isn’t trying to perform. A 2023 dating survey by YouGov in the UK showed that 87% of women ranked authenticity above any physical trait in an ideal partner, so don’t be afraid to let your quirks out.

Once, while waiting for a delayed train at Liverpool Street, I struck up a chat with a woman after complimenting her playlist—completely ignoring that she happened to be well-endowed. Our conversation sprang out of music, grew into a debate about whether Marmite is fit for human consumption, and ended with us splitting an overpriced coffee. She later told me she liked that I didn’t ‘do the usual routine.’

If the *only* thing you bring to the table is a fixation on curves, it gets old fast. Life’s too short to be anyone’s cliché. Swap the “cheeky comments” for honest stories or off-beat questions. Make eye contact, but don’t be weird about it. Notice how she smiles—or what she’s passionate about—and let conversation flow from there. Here’s a little illustration of date success from a 2023 Lovehoney UK report:

These numbers say it all—ditch the ‘fit bird’ chatter and ask her real things.

Respect, Boundaries, and What Never Works

Here’s a massive one—respect is everything. Women with a big bust face a lot of nonsense, from random gropes at gigs to lewd comments in the Tube. Most want someone who treats them like a person, not a spectacle. If you get the chance, follow her lead. Don’t linger in personal space. Don’t stare like you’ve just seen a double rainbow.

I had a chat once with a woman called Rosie at a summer festival in Hyde Park. She’d just shut down a bloke who’d made some comment about her top. She told me, “It’s not rocket science. Don’t be creepy, don’t assume, and don’t try too hard. Sometimes I just want a conversation about anything but my body.” Honestly, if you remember that, you’re halfway there.

One bad habit plenty of people fall into is using touch as a shortcut to flirtation. Big mistake. Unless you’ve already built some sort of comfort, that move almost always backfires. A YouGov poll from 2024 reported that 92% of UK women find unsolicited touching immediately off-putting, and nearly 70% associate it with bad dates. Just keep your hands to yourself. Compliments? Be creative. Notice her sense of style, the way she tells a story, or her quick wit. And if you’re unsure, it’s fine to ask—she’ll appreciate the honesty.

Here are things to avoid like the plague:

• Staring at her chest when you’re talking—it’s obvious and awkward
• Making innuendo or jokes in the first five minutes
• Teasing about bra size, unless you’re already sharing inside jokes as friends
• Commenting on how she ‘must get a lot of attention’ (yes, she knows)
• Offering unsolicited opinions about how women should dress or what suits them

One friend summed it up in a quote worth saving:

“I want someone to see me for my energy and my mind, not a stereotype. That’s the kind of flattery I remember.” – Sophie, London, 2024

Real Connection: Flirting, Conversation, and Humor

Now, let’s get to the fun part: actual flirting and building chemistry. Flirting is basically a dance, and the rhythm matters more than footwork. If you’re always leading with compliments on looks, it starts to feel like a broken record. Try banter—wit, cheek, and that tiny bit of mischief. If she teases you about your accent, lean into it. If she groans at a bad pun, that’s good—she’s engaging. Real moments break the ice far better than over-rehearsed lines.

No matter who I’m talking to, laughter is my best icebreaker. Once, at a quirky bookshop in Shoreditch, I ended up joking with a busty woman about the odd covers on romance novels. We invented absurd backstories for the characters. That kind of silly, honest humor sticks more than any line about looks. Curvy women often get serious or over-sexualised attention, so a bit of lightness is refreshing.

When you find a topic that really lights her up—hiking, gaming, dogs, politics—dig in. Listen. Don’t worry about impressing; focus on being present. If your attention wanders every time she glances over, she’ll notice. Women spot that unicorn-level, honest interest from a mile away. If the conversation goes quiet, don’t panic. Sometimes a little silence is more comfortable than nervous nattering.

Let’s play with the metaphor: if dating is a meal, charm is the spice—not the main dish. Too much and it overwhelms, too little and things fall flat. Let your personality show, but make sure your attention is balanced and authentic. Remember what matters most: everyone wants to be seen for who they are, not just their curves or clothes.

• Keep eye contact focused on her face
• Share stories, not just questions
• Use humor to make awkward moments lighter
• Reflect on things she’s said—it shows you’re truly tuned in
• Be okay with mistakes; it’s better than being too polished

So if you’re thinking of chatting up a busty woman you’ve had your eye on, forget the cheesy one-liners and don’t make it all about her figure. Show up as yourself, be curious, respect boundaries, and throw in a dash of humor. That’s the recipe that never really goes out of style—even in London, where there’s always another quirky babe and another story waiting.